Heartmind Connection Chronicles
This month's feature article:
Can Your Best Friend be the Key to Finding Your Life Partner?
Quote of the month:
What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.
-- Ralph Waldo Emerson
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The next F.ree Motivated to Marry™ Tele-gathering will be February 19th : To Date that person or not to Date- That is the Questions!
Your time is precious. When you go out with a person you have no idea where it may lead. How do you decide to date further or move on? Are you being too picky or not discerning enough? And what does it take to decide to be exclusive? We will discuss this and more! Join us for our lively tele-class.
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Tuesday, February 6th
Dating Like a Pro!
Tuesday, February 27th
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February is the month when Valentines Day is celebrated. The Holiday and New Years displays have barely been taken down when you start seeing hearts and cupids all over the place. It is just another reminder that you don’t have someone special in your life right now. It’s a very tough day for s.ingles. How can you make this holiday meaningful to you?
Perhaps there is a child in your life. Kids love this holiday. You can focus on making this a fun Valentines Day for you and your child, niece or nephew, grandchild or special young friend. Perhaps there is a parent, an aunt or uncle, an older cousin or even a grandparent in your life. Spend the day with visiting that person- especially if they are alone themselves. They will appreciate the fuss.
Of course, you have special friends in your life. Think about making plans to see a mushy movie with your girlfriends, hang out at a bar with your buddies or going for a decadent desert. Don’t forget something for your beloved pet. They are there for you through thick and thin.
Last, go buy yourself something special that you have wanted recently. You deserve it. On this holiday it is important to remember all the special “loves” you have in your life.
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Coach Amy Q & A:
D.ear Coach Amy,
I’m a 58 year old attractive woman who can’t seem to find a man who wants a serious committed relationship leading to marriage. Should I give up trying? Am I being totally unrealistic to expect to find this at my age?
Hopeless in Hempstead
First of all, I don’t believe anyone is hopeless. People are getting married at all ages. One of my client’s Mom, in her mid 60’s, met her new husband online. I have met many couples who have met and married in their 50’s, 60’s and 70’s!
The key is to express what you are looking for upfront while you are out there dating or looking to date. Then, date only those who share your desire to find a partner for marriage. One of the clues is to look at their history. Is the potential person used to being in a marriage? How did his last marriage end? A widower who has had a happy marriage will most likely not like being on his own for too long. Some divorced men also prefer to be in a serious relationship and are uncomfortable with being alone.
I do believe if a man has not been married by the time he is 60 years old, I doubt that he will ever want to be married – but you never know!
At later ages, financial concerns come into play-as well as the opinions of grown children who are nervous about their inheritance. If you do find your true love, be smart and open to having a prenuptial agreement or just a “commitment ceremony”. You need to decide on what really matters to you.
If you are truly set on finding a marriage partner, you need to be creative about finding him. I believe the internet can open a lot of avenues to meet eligible men who want the same things you do (See my article on my website, “The Case for Internet Dating in the F.REE area). It all depends on your “weeding” process. You have to decide how long you are willing to be in an exclusive relationship with a man before expecting a commitment or talk about marriage.
If marriage is truly your goal, then you have to stick to your guns and be ready to walk away if you start to feel strung along. Set an acceptable timeframe for you to be in an exclusive relationship before expecting a solid commitment.
You need to have the belief of abundance and that there are plenty of available men out there to date. You have to be willing to get out there and look for them in churches or synagogues, support groups, social activities appropriate for your age group (dances and lectures) and especially online dating. And consider: are you willing to date outside of your particular town or city?
If you hold firm your goal of marriage, and make your expectations known early in the process, the right guy will stick around and meet those expectations. If not, then move on to someone who will!
Please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with any dating and relationship q.uestions you would like advice on. Of course, I will keep your name confidential. If you have q.uestions, others surely have the same q.uestions too!
Can Your Best Friend be the Key to Finding Your Life Partner?
Think about your best friend. What makes this person your best friend? How did you best friend become so? When you ponder this, you will see qualities and characteristics on your “wish list” for your soul-mate.
I remember when I met my best friend, Jackie. We had an instant rapport. We liked the same things- fashion, tennis, and dancing. We liked working out together. We also enjoyed musicals and concerts. She was willing to go hear Country Music with me and to go Zydeco dancing. (Not typical activities for an East Coast girl!).
She had an openness to try new things like a new restaurant. We traveled really well together. We even sang Shania Twain songs on the radio out loud together while driving in the car. We were the milder version of Thelma and Louise!
She is very easy to talk to and an hour could pass quickly on the ph.one or anywhere. There is a flow, a positive energy.
Jackie is not pretentious. I can confide in her and know it will not go any further. I can trust her. She has backed me up when some other women were nasty to me. I know I can count on her in tough times. She came to visit me the night before I had to put my cat to sleep.
When I think of the values, qualities and characteristics of my best friend, those are the same things I wanted in a mate.
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It’s not too late to Join the next 3 month Motivated to Marry™ Tele-Coaching Group held Wednesdays at 9 pm EST. The next group is being formed n.ow for the end of February 2007. Sign up before February 25th and get $50 off your first month of coaching. Get affordable coaching and support from others who are in the same boat as you plus monthly personal coaching with me. Perfect for both s.ingles who have n.ever married and for divorced individuals desiring a lasting long-term relationship. Go to www.heartmindconnection.com/motivatedtomarry-group-gen.html for more information or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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Article continued from above:
I hear from my clients and those I have interviewed, “I want my husband or wife to be my best friend”. My married interviewees tell me “My husband (or wife) is my best friend.”
My husband is also a best friend. Ok, we don’t talk about fashion; however, we do have a similar mindset and values. We enjoy many of the same activities. I also feel secure and trust him with my deepest secrets.
Of course, a major difference between my best girlfriend and my husband is that there is a physical chemistry – an attraction to my husband and romantic feelings.
As you go looking for your life partner, keep in mind what attracts you to your best friends. That will give you clues to what kind of person would make a great romantic partner for you. Seek out venues that attract the same kind of person.
When I think back, I met Jackie at a singles biking group. That’s also where I found my husband! So go to where your best friend and you would be most likely to be hanging out. You may just meet your true love there.
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