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Heartmind Connection Chronicles

December 2005

This month's feature article:

5 Strategies for Surviving the Holidays for S.ingles

Enjoy reading the latest monthly Heartmind Connections ezine. I would love to hear your comments on my ezine and any suggestions you may have for future issues. You may contact me at: coachamy@heartmindconnection.com.

Quote of the month: Your heart often knows things before your mind does… -- Polly Adler

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Last month we had a very informative and lively discussion.

Call in to the bridge line provided, add your two cents to our monthly topic and bring your questions, issues and concerns about dating and relationships- Talk with Amy Schoen, Professional Life Coach and Dating and Relationship Expert. Tele-gatherings take place on the third Monday of the month at 8 p.m. – the next one is on December 19th . Sign up at www.heartmindconnection.com

Come hear Amy speak at the following event in the DC area:

Saturday, December 17 th at 7 pm
How to Get Out There and Date- Again!
Parents Without Partners, Private home
Herndon, VA
Contact: Marlo Menoren 703-444-1584 or

Wednesday, December 21 st at 7:30 pm
Dating Like a Pro!
Jewish Social & Sports Network
Teaism at Penn Quarter, 400 8 th Street, NW Washington, DC
Contact: Harley Liebenson, 301-610-5397
Email: info@jssn.org

Thursday, January 5 th at 7pm
5 Easy Steps to Improving Your Life Today!
Professionals in the City – Washington, DC
John Hopkins University- Washington Center
1625 Massachussetts Ave, NW (Dupont Circle)
Contact: Colleen, 202-491-7291

Tuesday, January 17 th at 6:30 pm
Am I Ever Going To Meet the Right Person? Learn How to Date the Motivated to Marry™ Way!
First Class
Dupont Circle, Washington, DC
Contact: 202-797-5102

Do you need a speaker for an event or meeting? See my entire list of speech topics on www.heartmindconnection.com . For more information contact Amy at 240-498-7803 or coachamy@heartmindconnection.com

Feature Article:

It's the end of November, soon to be December and the holidays are currently upon us. All you see are Christmas decorations in the stores and holiday commercials of happy families celebrating mostly Christmas and New Years Eve. Because you are single and not even in a significant relationship, this can be a tough time of year for you, especially if you desire to be a part of a couple and have a family of your own. The feelings that come up range from loneliness to dread to jealousy of your friends and family who seem to have it all!

What's a single guy or gal to do? I surveyed my friends and I found 5 different strategies that make the holiday season bearable for them.

  • Stay home and catch up on paperwork!
What a great time to get your taxes in order! You can also spend your time at home searching the internet dating sites for your true love. Besides, it's just another day in the year. It will be over before you know it and you will get a jump on next year!

•  Earn overtime pay by working!

Most people want to take off during the holidays. Who is going to hold the fort? I have a friend who works in radio. She covers the holiday shift so others can be with their families. I also know someone who helps out in a restaurant once a year to help out a friend who is short-handed. You help others and make some extra pocket change- it's a win-win!

•  Go out and do the stuff you love!

Go to the gym- it's usually open part of the day (closes early on Christmas Eve and closed Christmas Day). You can go shopping and take advantage of the sales late Christmas Eve or New Years Day. Buy yourself the items you really wanted for yourself. Go see the movie that you are dying to see. Go to a museum exhibit you haven't been able to visit. You don't have to worry about anyone holdingyou back. Or many Churches and Synagogues have volunteer programs on Christmas Day.

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•  Seek out singles events and gatherings.

There are singles many parties on New Years Eve in every major City (www.prosinthecity.com). It's a great time to meet people because everyone is open and festive. No one wants to be alone on New Years Eve. Or you can create your own party for friends. Each year I organize a mostly singles dinner for my friends (we're Jewish) on Christmas day at a local Chinese restaurant. It's sometime easier not to deal with the couple or family thing - especially if there are married couples with kids. Most of my singles friends yearn to have a family.

I also know my single friends are uncomfortable with witnessing the public display of affection sometimes demonstrated by couples. So it's just easier to hang out with other singles.

•  Take a trip and get out of town!

My girlfriend takes a cruise in the Caribbean during Christmas week through New Years Day. There are also singles ski trips, Club Med and such. Or find a buddy and go away to the destination of your choosing. Not only are you taking a vacation, but you never know who you will meet on your adventure!

A word of caution: Starting in November beware of falling into a false, convenient relationship. Here you find yourself in a precarious relationship that's somewhat comfortable (and clearly not the one) that can carry you through the cold, dark months of winter. This is the hardest time of the year to be single. It seems as though we are sometimes playing musical chairs and that by late November, whomever you were dating, you attach yourself to this person and settle into a relationship for the time being.

When I was single, I unconsciously found myself in relationships by late Fall so that I would have someone to be with me during the holidays. And with my birthday in January and subsequently the dreaded Valentine's Day in February, I was then in a position to get the attention and the gifts I truly desired! Funny how by March or April the relationship broke up and I was out in the dating world again as spring blossomed.

So you get to choose. How do you want to spend the holidays? Only you know what feels right for you. Perhaps you want to try something new this year. It's time to make your plans now so you are not left out in the cold!

To read articles from my previous monthly ezines go to: www.heartmindconnection.com/free.html

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